At some point you have to accept that other people’s perceptions of you are as valid as (and probably a lot more objective than) your own.
This may mean letting go of a false or outdated self-image, including some cherished illusions of unique unlovability.
I recently had a talk with Shannon that was eerily similar to the central conceit of this article.
We don’t get to pick how we show up in other people’s interpretation of ourselves. The author’s story about his dad sleeping at the movie theater next to him is a great example.