stuff tagged with "grit"
Irrational Dedication
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Behind every seemingly effortless success lies a landscape of invisible battles: endless meetings, self-doubts, and moments of near-total collapse.
What truly separates people isnāt some magical talent, but an almost irrational commitment to pushing through pain that would break most people.
Everything around youāevery convenience you enjoy, every space you inhabit, every service you useāwas one personās refusal to accept the world as it was.
The world progresses from a collection of irrational dedication.
Related: glory means nothing without sacrifice. Personally, Iām sometimes quick to want the glory without the sacrifice, which results in a fairly hallow glory.
Everyone knows what works. Few do it after it stops being exciting.
You become what you give your attention to.
You can have results or excuses. Not both.
Don't be afraid to start over again. This time you're not starting from scratch, you're starting from experience.
You want to make a record? Well, shut up and make a record. On what record label, though? Just make a record label. Like, donāt ask, āHey, do you want my record?ā Just make a record company. Find a recording studio. You know, get your friends to cut out some letters and make a picture sleeve. And there's nothing unique about thisāit was done from the doo-wop days of the '50s all the way through to punk rock. But, you know, you want to make a fanzine? Okay, just do it, and a week later thereās five copies of Flaming Butt fanzine.
We didnāt complain. We just went out there and did it. And with a smile on our face. We realized that this was a special time and a special moment, and we didnāt take it for granted. Nothing was ever given to us, we had to go out there and take it. Thatās exactly what we did, and we proved it every single night in that ring.
Yes, talent matters. Iām not going to stand here and tell you it doesnāt. But talent has a broad definition. Most of the time, itās not about having a gift. Itās about having grit. In tennis, like in life, discipline is also a talent. And so is patience. Trusting yourself is a talent. Embracing the processāloving the processāis a talent. Managing your life, managing yourself. These can be talents, too. Some people are born with them. Everybody has to work at them.
The Best Programmers
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The single best trait to predict whether I'm looking at a good programmer or a great one is undoubtedly perseverance. Someone that takes to each new challenge like a dog to a bone, and who struggles to sleep until the next obstacle is cleared.
Today (literally today), I delivered the final story for the third project Iāve had at my day job since starting back in October.
This project involved a lot of unknowns and uncertainties, and resulted in a ton of code that was written and thrown away in order to arrive at the final stab at version 1.
It was painful. Ask my wife and sheāll tell you I spent many days in doubt, riddled with anxiety and impostor syndrome, feeling like a fraud.
But then, just like that, Iām able to click the āsquash and mergeā button, and itās done. The clouds lift. Itās incredible.
Sort of reminds me of Courtney Dauwalterās pain cave metaphor. Every time I start an engineering project, I go into the pain cave and start chiseling away at the walls.
Once Iāve chiseled enough, I am rewarded by stepping back out of the cave and celebrating what Iāve built. Itās an incredible feeling.
Itās a short lived euphoria, though. I only get a few moments before I dust myself off, grab a quick bite to eat, and begin my descent back into the cave to start chiseling away on the next project.
Caitlin Clark and Iowa find peace in the process
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This profile is over a year old1, but itās still delightful.
At a team meeting that season, when hurt feelings over Caitlin's lack of trust had come to the surface, it was Martin who rose to speak.
"I got something," she said.
The team fell silent.
"Everybody thinks they want to be Caitlin," she said. "I don't know if you want to be Caitlin."
The women knew immediately what she meant.
Iām inspired by Caitlinās ability to succeed so spectacularly in public without losing herself.
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For the last few months, Iāve been reflexively avoiding the Instapaper app. This happens from time to time when I save a lofty, aspirational article which Iām afraid to take on. Now that Iām doing the work of weeding out my digital gardens, Iām much more comfortable with moving onto the next piece if the current one isnāt inspiring me. ↩
Dear Self; we need to talk about ambition
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Like the programming path, the legible independent ambition path works for some people, but not you. The things you do when pushed to Think Big and Be Independent produce incidental learning at best, but never achieve anything directly. They canāt, because you made up the goals to impress other people. This becomes increasingly depressing, as you fail at your alleged goals and at your real goal of impressing people.Ā
So what do we do then? Give up on having goals? Only by their definition. What seems to work best for us is leaning into annoyance or even anger at problems in the world, and hate-fixing them.Ā
Youāve always hated people being wrong, and it turns out a lot of things can be defined as āwrongā if you have the right temperament. Womenās pants have tiny pockets that wonāt fit my phone? Wrong. TSA eating hours of my life for no gain? Wrong. Medical-grade fatigue? Wrong. People dying of preventable diseases? Extremely wrong. And wrong things are satisfying to fix.
Yesterday, I was doing the dishes when I saw a mostly eaten yogurt cup laying in the sink.
As I started rinsing it out, I wondered whether I should throw it in the garbage or the recycling bin.
I thought about this quiz game that my county has on their website where they present various household items and you have to say whether it can go in the recycling, compost, or garbage.
The last time I played it, I found myself just getting mad.
Mad that I was getting questions wrong.
Mad that I canāt tell if this quiz is up to date with the latest recycling advice.
It occurred to me, while rinsing the cup, that I donāt really like learning most things for fun. I learn them because I like to ensure I have the best chance at complying with the rules.
I like passing through the hoops that were laid out for me.
I liked school so much because there was a clearly defined metric for success and failure.
But as Iām now 36 years old, success doesnāt really get defined in that way anymore.
I am glad this article surfaced in my Instapaper queue this morning, because I think itās mostly the article I wouldāve written for myself.
I really enjoyed the authorās advice on determining authentic motivation, viewing procrastination as a workersā strike, and realizing that your taste will often outpace your abilities.
We must all either wear our or rust out, every one of us. My choice is to wear out.
The sun has not caught me in bed in fifty years.
The Weak Case for Grit
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Iāve heard many interviews with Angela Ducksworth over the past few years, and Iāve always felt bad after each one.
Grit, as a trait, is something I feel like I possess relatively little of.
Maybe reading this article is just feeding into my own confirmation bias a bit, but the reason I wanted to share it is because it introduced a different measure to me: conscientious.
Conscientiousness is a component of the popular āOCEANā model of personality, according to which we all have ābig fiveā rather self-explanatory measurable traits: openness (to experience), conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. This model has left a large mark on personality psychology, in part because it raises useful questions that researchers have subsequently investigated, ranging from the extent to which variation in these traits is caused by nature versus nurtureāone 2015 meta-analysis estimated the answer is about 40 percent genetics, 60 percent environment3āto whether and to what extent various traits correlate with success in work, relationships, and other settings.
Again, maybe Iām just hearing what I want to hear, but Iām very interested in learning more about the OCEAN model of personality.
Update: I just spent nearly 90 minutes convincing my kids to each eat half a bowl of Cinnamon Toast Crunch. Maybe I do have some grit after all...
How People Learn To Be Resilient
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Human beings are capable of worry and rumination: we can take a minor thing, blow it up in our heads, run through it over and over, and drive ourselves crazy until we feel like that minor thing is the biggest thing that ever happened.
In a sense, itās a self-fulfilling prophecy. Frame adversity as a challenge, and you become more flexible and able to deal with it, move on, learn from it, and grow.
How to Stop Being Lazy
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Redefine Failure.
Know Your Worst-Case Scenario.
Stay Relevant.
Work Towards The Fear.
This post made me feel seen and understood. Time to get going.
What My Sled Dogs Taught Me About Planning for the Unknown
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Planning for forever is essentially impossible, which can actually be freeing: It brings you back into the present. How long will this pandemic last? Right now, thatās irrelevant; what matters is eating a nourishing meal, telling someone you love them, walking your dog, getting enough sleep. What matters is that, to the degree you can, you make your own life sustainable every day.
To Run My Best Marathon at Age 44, I Had to Outrun My Past
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Can I go faster in my next marathon? I don't know, but I'll certainly try. All three of my kids, though, are realistic about what it means to try to get faster as the body gets weaker every day. They are excited about what they'll feel like at 18 or 28. They're climbing up the mountain as I'm walking down.
Personal Renewal
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Nothing is ever finally safe. Every important battle is fought and re-fought. We need to develop a resilient, indomitable morale that enables us to face those realities and still strive with every ounce of energy to prevail.
You may wonder if such a struggle -- endless and of uncertain outcome -- isn't more than humans can bear. But all of history suggests that the human spirit is well fitted to cope with just that kind of world.
It was very hard to pull a single quote out of this speech. If youāre struggling in life right now, reading this will help.
Edit from the future: I just realized I shared this twice in, like, two weeks haha! Here's the pull quote I used from the other sharing. I guess this is just a sign that this speech really is amazing.
If we are conscious of the danger of going to seed, we can resort to countervailing measures. At almost any age. You donāt need to run down like an unwound clock. And if your clock is unwound, you can wind it up again. You can stay alive in every sense of the word until you fail physically. I know some pretty successful people who feel that that just isnāt possible for them, that life has trapped them. But they donāt really know that. Life takes unexpected turns.